I’m a judgmental person. I’ll come right out and say it. I’m one of those people who will believe what anyone says about a person, true or false. It’s not exactly something I’m proud of, but I’ve never really done anything about it. And I’m sure I’m not the only one.
Think about when you meet someone for the first time. What assumptions do you make about them? Do you put a label on them right then and there based on how they look, how they talk, what car they drive, what their family’s like, who they hang out with? I know I do. Every day I judge someone at school based on what I’ve heard about them. And the sad thing is, most of these people? I don’t even know the real person they are inside. But still, I judge. Everyone does it, it’s just part of being human, right?
Well, it doesn’t have to be. Sure when you first meet someone, it’s almost impossible not to judge them, or when you hear a certain thing about a certain person at school. Just because it’s part of being human doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to stop. John 7:24 says, “Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgement”. Basically, get to know someone first. I know it’s hard, especially if you’ve heard something about them that, in your eyes, is something to judge them on. But the truth is, you don’t really know if it’s true. To know the truth, you have to get to know that person. Understand who they really are. You never know what might happen.
A few weeks ago, my english class read the book To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee. One of the quotes that has stuck with me says, “‘You never fully understand a person until you consider things from their point of view; until you get in their shoes and walk around in them.'”. You shouldn’t judge people based on what you hear about them, especially from teenage girls. I know, I am one. And I know I’m guilty of doing this, too.
As a matter of fact, this morning in Sunday school, we were given a self evaluation sheet. It asked questions about how we judged people. If we accepted them for who they are, or not. (And if you still have time after reading this post, just take a couple of minutes to look at the evaluation at the bottom.) But going through this self evaluation, I realized just how much I actually judged people without meaning to. And it made me feel awful. So this time, I’m going to do something about it, not just think about how it could be different, and actually try to see things from someone else’s point of view. Not just what I think. What about you?
1) Do you accept the kids in your classes, or do you make judgements about them and treat them according to how they look, what they can do, or who their friends are?
2) Do you act embarrassed or aggravated by your parents or your siblings, or are you proud of who they are and what they do for you?
3) Do you treat your friends a certain way because of what they do for you and how they make you feel, or do you accept them for who they are?
4) Do you judge people based on their reputations, or do you take the time to get to know them for yourself?
5) Do you take time to think about ways to encourage those around you?
6) Do you follow through with communicating encouraging words or actions to others?
7) Do you perform kind deeds for others without being asked or prompted?
8) Do you show kindness to others without expecting them to repay you?
9) Do you show kindness even to people who are typically not nice to you?